There sometimes comes a time in a relationship where that hard question of “do you still want this” has to be asked. This really isn’t a yes/no question, but a “yes/not yes” question. It doesn’t really matter what you say, but if the first word isn’t yes, then the answer is no. If you say “I don’t know” with no justification it is no. If you say “I’ve been busy and tired and you caught me at a bad time”, that’s a no.
I recently had the joy of having to ask this, and getting the wrong response. I had to cut my losses. This really isn’t that hard, if after a few months you can’t make up your mind, then it’s over. I don’t know why you had to string it along for so long, but I started to get my doubts. It just sucks that I had to cut it off. I really liked her, and I thought we really had something until recently when she got more distant.
I feel like I have failed at being human, if that makes sense. Every single time I find someone, something goes wrong- whether it be moving too fast, too slow, being too needy, etc. The whole thing about girls wanting a nice guy is pretty much bullshit. They want attention, and asshole guys give them plenty of that. Let me give you a tip ladies: Go find the shy guy sitting alone at the bar. Us introverts need love too. Try dating a geek; as it has been noted “on the internets”, us geeks aren’t like the assholes that will come up and just try to get in bed with you.
